First you have to find someone with whom you share a mutual attraction, then you have to make sure that you want the same thing in terms of commitment. As a result, many have turned to online dating sites. As the saying goes: “Men are afraid women will laugh at them.When someone says online dating, one of the first sites that comes to mind is Ok Cupid.Ok Cupid’s data shows that men receive replies to about 20-50% of their online dating messages, depending on their attractiveness — and I’m going to go out on a limb and say most would like to move that number up to 100%.
Mind you, some of these messages include phrases (or words) that most men wouldn’t feel comfortable saying out loud in public, even at the loudest bar in New York.But, disguised via app, they feel comfortable letting their freak flag fly, especially when it’s a message that has had some success in the past.It is estimated that there are about 30 million total users, with roughly 1 million unique users logging in every day.It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.While there are plenty of cool single dudes to meet online, there are also loads of entitled, misogynistic assholes littering your inbox and refusing to be ignored.
Our friends over at Whisper asked their female users to submit the worst messages they’ve received from men they refused to chat with and the results were sadly and unsurprisingly vile.As someone who has been on the receiving end, here are some mistakes that have made me hit “delete” or, in the worst cases, “block” on my online dating messages.1.Sounding generic The way to a woman’s heart is making her feel worthy of the same message you’ve sent a dozen other women, right?( AJH5Wvx C)You’ve heard this advice about your cover letters, and it applies here too: Please don’t write a message generic enough that it could have been copied and pasted.It leaves us asking ourselves either “Did he read my profile?You know, there could be a situation where it's acceptable to bring up masturbation in a first text message, because, you know..wait, no there's not.