It's a staggering figure that represents what is probably the biggest and most significant social shift of our time, with far-reaching implications for personal relationships and family lives which we're only just beginning to fully appreciate. How have we gone from 1969, when just 4 per cent of women out-earned their men, to this?How do they - and their men - feel about their new status?
How has your husband handled your decision to talk about the fact that you’re the breadwinner?
He has been really supportive and throughout the process we have been very communicative.
“Men who are dating increasingly expect women to split the check,” she says.
There may also be a growing number of men seeking sugar mommas to foot the bill in full. Michaeli says that, “the most interesting shift I’ve been seeing is the number of men who are more comfortable and even have come to expect their partners to be the major or sole breadwinner.” Take David Nadel, a banjo player in California, who describes his career path as “weird” and “unstable.” As a result, he stopped dating women who don’t earn “enough.” “The idea of finding a woman of equal or better financial stability is very appealing,” he says, and now it is more possible than ever.
Farnoosh Torabi is a financial expert, author and speaker, but she’s also a breadwinning woman, and in her new book, “When She Makes More: 10 Rules for Breadwinning Women,” Torabi uses her own experience, as well as a host of research, to explore how a woman’s paycheck can impact her dating life, relationships, and marriage.
Torabi’s data presents a pretty grim picture, showing female breadwinners are less likely to marry and are more likely to divorce if they do so.Recent figures from a large-scale government study show the number of 'breadwinner wives' - women in partnerships who earn more than their men - has soared to 19 per cent, with another 25 per cent earning the same amount as their menfolk.It means that almost half of us now earn as much or more than our husbands and partners.My husband and I have a date this week to exchange love letters and celebrate the ten-year anniversary of the night he got down on one knee and proposed."The Weaker Sex" is Tsing Loh's latest skeptical look at marriage.I chalked up his crass question to emotional insecurity, not realizing he saw my modest earnings as a red flag. Doucheberg inevitably brought up money again, I revealed my squarely middle class income. He wanted to date someone who earns as much as he does, if not more.